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Saturday, February 28, 2009

“The Best Interests of the Children”

in the best interests of the child In social work terms is like “Abracadabra” to a magician. This phrase, cause sheriffs, judges, lawyers or professionals that deal with children to cringe and agree unreservedly with every word that social services say like they have no will or mind of their own. They should be ashamed to call themselves servants of the people.

That must mean the social services think they are perfect and a law onto themselves.

Has nothing penetrated through to our members of parliaments that they allowed this law to be passed?

How many times have social services found to be not working to their own policies.

How many children have been adopted and been lost to their parents and the social services were to blame with inaccurate statements.

How many children have been removed wrongly by social services?

How many children have been proven to be abused in care?


Now see for yourself it is disgusting.

(Quote) Independent Media. But as of April, because of a change in legislation being introduced by Jack Straw, the Justice Secretary, the media will no longer be able to identify those involved in cases such as the W--------. It will also be illegal for any children currently in care to speak out, even if they feel they are being maltreated. (unquote)
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/media/press/justice-ministry-to-bar-parents-from-telling-their-own-stories-1622154.html

The Websters: a crisis of complexity
The story of children removed from their parents is tragic, but when the evidence tells a different story, who are we to believe?
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/feb/13/websters-child-protection

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Why we should avoid social services and NSCCP

The government is under continued pressure about the blundering incompetent Social Services and the First Minister is not a happy bunny. A little bird told me he did not want any scandals from social services during his reign.

So far the government appear to be no closer to coming up with any answers. Now social services, it appears, are making contacting with them as awkward and harassing experience as possible and putting people in fear of asking for assistance. Families are so terrified to approach them for fear of their children being taken away. Evidence has shown that the majority of families are reluctant to contact social services for their child policies of snatching, alienating then adopting children to strangers and bypassing the grandparents if the parents are not available.

The draconian measures they are producing is frightening people away from a service which used to be a caring and once gave support to families in times of trouble. Now they are coming up with gagging laws to shut anyone up that has come into contact with them.

It is a rigorous process vetting foster cares or adopters but it must be cheaper in the long run to adopt children.. Spending money on fostering children back and forth is just about out of the question and they don’t mess about now .Cost is their main concern.

If they consider the children are not in a safe place and not properly cared for, make no bones about it, the children will be removed and they will be groomed for adoption, with or without your consent, nearly always to strangers. But the problem is, all too often their judgement is wrong.

The social service’s concern is for the physical care of children (what the public sees) and the emotional, mental or spiritual side is not catered for, hence the reason it is said that children in care are low achievers lose their identity and self esteem and find comfort in gangs as a family substitute. With a start like that in young adulthood they find it extremely difficult if not impossible to rise above their situation..

This is the pattern the social services are following and it is not in the best interests of your children.

Are you getting the message? They don’t want you to contact them.

How to avoid Social Services.
Points to note.

1……If any parent/s or other caring for children are having problems with drink or
drugs

2…….If children are suspected of being neglected or abused.

3…….If there is disagreement in the family about the safety of children.

4…….If social services consider the children are in a place where they could be in
danger.

Try and resolve your differences between yourselves. Contact Family Mediation Services or groups like ours Grandparents Apart UK 0141 882 5658 If we don’t know, we will know a man or women that does.

The social services are not compelled to consider grandparents or extended family, because they are human.

1…….They have no legal rights to the children.

2…….They will often allow the children contact with the person/s that the social
service forbids costing them once again.

3…….Often grandparents speak up to social services, and then they are branded as
being uncooperative and then ignored.

4…….Grandparents are acknowledged as first class at early detection of child abuse
that is why they are alienated so much..

Getting help.

it is amazing what a family group conference can achieve. A mountain can be a molehill out of control. You must try to reach an agreement within the family. Try not to be in a position where social services need to be involved… Contact Family Mediation 0845 119 2020 Services or groups like ours Grandparents Apart UK 0141 882 5658

Please note. We really need social services unfortunately, if it is not within your own power to stop abuse when children are in real danger, please do not hesitate to call them or the police when you suspect abuse is happening.

If anyone in charge of children has an alcohol problem and cannot cope contact other members of the family and temporarily sign the parental rights and responsibilities over to the grandparents or a member of the family who is not having problems then seek help from alcohol or drug counsellors from your local advice centre.. This way if the person with a problem is in recovery then they can see the kids regularly for encouragement and when they resolve their problems they can have the kids back. If social services end up adopting them you will have no chance of getting them back.

Grandparents Help Single Parents With Teens

Tuesday, Feb 24 (Psych Central)

Spending time with a grandparent is linked with better social skills and fewer behavior problems among adolescents, especially those living in single-parent or stepfamily households.

This study in the February Journal of Family Psychology found that children and adolescents whose parents have separated or divorced see their grandparents as confidants and sources of comfort. “Grandparents are a positive force for all families but play a significant role in families undergoing difficulties,” said lead author Shalhevet Attar-Schwartz, Ph.D, of The Hebrew University of Jerusalem. “They can reduce the negative influence of parents separating and be a resource for children who are going through these family changes.”

The article continues via: http://psychcentral.com/news/2009/02/24/grandparents-help-single-parents-with-teens/4306.html

Grandparents Help Single Parents With Teens

Tuesday, Feb 24 (Psych Central)

Spending time with a grandparent is linked with better social skills and fewer behavior problems among adolescents, especially those living in single-parent or stepfamily households.

This study in the February Journal of Family Psychology found that children and adolescents whose parents have separated or divorced see their grandparents as confidants and sources of comfort. “Grandparents are a positive force for all families but play a significant role in families undergoing difficulties,” said lead author Shalhevet Attar-Schwartz, Ph.D, of The Hebrew University of Jerusalem. “They can reduce the negative influence of parents separating and be a resource for children who are going through these family changes.”

The article continues via: http://psychcentral.com/news/2009/02/24/grandparents-help-single-parents-with-teens/4306.html

Sunday, February 22, 2009

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It would be great to have more members on the Chatterblog, I miss you all.
Jane.